Articles
The
Joy of Creating an Authentic Wedding
In an age where the average
cost of a wedding is rapidly rising to the £20,000 mark and stories
of severe wedding planning stress are rife, it is perhaps time to
take a look at why such a potentially enjoyable experience becomes a
burden to so many.
We often hear of brides who
can’t eat or sleep properly as the stress of planning takes its
toll. There are reports of family feuds, irrational behaviour and
the once sensitive, sensible person being transformed into the
bridezilla she never wanted to be.
What can you do then, to ensure
that it doesn’t happen to you but instead, you enjoy these months
before you marry, planning one of the most significant days of your
life?
It’s depends on your attitude, approach and
perception of what your wedding is all about…
Your wedding is, in every
sense, a creation. Piece by piece you bring together elements that
will eventually be identified and remembered as your wedding day.
You face one of life’s great opportunities to truly express
yourself before an audience of people who love and care about you.
It’s an enviable place to be!
You have a choice of either
putting together a day that is authentic to who you are or have a
wedding that fulfils others expectations and/ or sets out to
impress.
Authentic means ‘of undisputed origin.’ Therefore
an authentic wedding will:
-
come
from you
-
represent
you
-
capture
your essence as a couple and as individuals
-
communicate
your intentions
-
radiate
your energy
-
reflect
your personal style
-
be
connected to you and you to it
The result is a wedding that
has meaning, feeling, warmth, poignancy, beauty and above all, heart
and soul.
The seven step check list above
will help to keep you on track in creating a wedding that is truly
from the core of who you are and align with your values, beliefs,
hopes and vision.
When you aim for something that
is honest, genuine and true you will be surprised at how positive
your experience can be. It will still be a challenge and there will
be setbacks but your sense of achievement from creating this day
that is an extension of you and your life will put you on a great
big high!
The opposite is true of
planning a wedding that is driven by the need to impress and
responds heavily to outside influences and expectations. Instead of
your wedding coming from you, it comes from outside of you and
therefore your creation is less personal and more of a show for the
benefit of others.
Inevitably there is less fulfillment
and satisfaction to be had from putting together something that is
remote from you. This is a draining task that takes more than it
gives. The wedding that is big on celebrity style but short on
substance can leave you feeling empty, confused, disconnected and
anxious. This is when many people feel their sense of self gradually
ebbing away and with it, their sanity and ability to deal with
things.
Keep it real! Planning a wedding that is truly yours will
replenish and reward you and you will touch the hearts of your
guests, for all the right reasons.
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